On Umar Johnson and Slut Shaming.

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The sister he (Dr. Umar Johnson) allegedly slept with (google the released videos/texts), for the past year or so, became the squeaky wheel who turned the lights on about his alleged behaviors, out in the streets. In short summation of his posts: she wanted more (commitment/truth/connection/intimacy) and when he was not interested in returning such love requests, she turned into crazy-stalker chick. In short- sum of her posts, (and now-deleted videos): this ninja Umar ain’t shit behind closed doors, and folks should know! (paraphrasing, mine). Many people (the onlookers) feel that he is a single man, so he can do as he pleases. Can he?

She IS NOT the first woman to cry fowl about the ‘Hidden Colors’ superstar. Her tenacity, and whatever else fueled her passions, got her song the most hits; her net cast the widest. So, when I read posts on several social media sites suggesting that “the stripper whistle-blower’ should be handled, I was stunned. Handled, because she’s counterproductive to the revolution and to Umar’s contribution to “the people”.  There were posts that supported chastising her for gossiping! There were other opinions that suggested she should’ve kept quiet, instead of suffering from crabs-in-a-bucket syndrome. And my favorite opinions: what else can you expect from a slut? She is a stripper, after all!

Ummm, really? Is it not law that what is done in the dark, finds its way to the light? Can we ask the obvious question without being accused of betrayal? Why is Umar Johnson with a stripper? Yet, It’s the woman’s (alleged stripper whistle-blower) fault that he did not secure “that funding” for ‘his school’? It’s her fault? Who blames others for their own actions? Immaturity does that! Liars do that! Unsavory characters do that! I think you see where I am going with this. For some woman somewhere, this should’ve happened two years ago: the snatching of covers off of spiritual and community pimps! Eddie Long was just the beginning!

Yet, in order to keep our black-unity cards, and a shot at better marriage percentages for our daughters, we (mainly the sisters) are asked (or is it, expected) to turn a blind eye to the rampant womanizing in our communities, churches, iles, ramas, organizations, and other places. And by rampant womanizing I do mean: all brothers/men: Married; Single; Devoted-to-the-Cause; Called-to-Greatness-so-Can’t-Be-Tied-Down; Gay-but-Thuggalicious; College-degreed Pimping; Over-40-and-Never-Addressed-the-Scars; Nice-Guy-Drowning-in-Abandonment-Issues; I’m- a-Drummer-so-I’m-Supposed-to-‘Ho; Ifa-Predicted-Many-Wives; God-is-Not-Through-With-Me-Yet…..reasons men (insert, brothers) ask women (insert, sisters) to put up with the complete and utter breakdown of the black-family institution; and the dismantling of black love as some ideology as foolish as the boogey man! We (mainly sisters) are asked to turn a blind eye to the men who are still working out their mother-issues between the legs, and in the lives, of unsuspecting women who accept the madness, in hopes for the best!

We (mainly the sisters) are expected to be vocal (read, raise hell) about our disrespectful suns and their seemingly inherent misogynistic aires. We are championed for running in circles, like dogs chasing tails, trying to figure out why our suns hate us so much. (You don’t think that our suns hate us? Have you visited your local middle or high school lately? Do us all a favor and substitute-teach for awhile. I double-dog dare you!) Yet, we are never to make the connections between our suns’ behaviors and our brothers’ behaviors.

In fact, to be fully supported as “comrades in the struggle” by our brothers we must make sure that we put a good distance between us  and anything that resembles ‘black man bashing’.  Just as long as we bury up to our necks, in the sand, about our whoremongering brothers, we will feel comfortable. But stand up and throw a stone, and the slut is shamed!

Umar Johnson is asking for our children, in whatever city…..hell yes, leave no stone unturned when it comes to who is handling our children in a private setting. Heck, look at what is going on in a public school setting and it has required fingerprinting. So, I don’t have an issue with educators being ‘investigated’. Background checks on everybody, for the safety of everyone involved. And if the investigation turns up a bitter fight between you and a woman you lay with, then shame on you! But don’t let the shame be about your preference for “Jessica Dime-Pieces”! Be ashamed of your lack of wisdom and maturity, yet perpetrating the fraud as “that kind of leader”!

IMO, the young lady did not cause Umar Johnson’s loss of a big check to fund his school. His lower-nature, (that is allegedly in control of his mind and body), is what cost him the big check! A brilliant mind one may be, but if you are still struggling, like a teenage boy, to keep your penis in your pants. If all of the beautiful, great-bodied women you meet from city to city trips you up. If you have not mastered your urges– then ‘go sit cho ass down’!!! We have enough awos, community healers, and cultural-research bandits passing STDs out, like government cheese! Let real men/real babas come through here and restore!!!! Keep to writing your papers, making cameos, and staying in the background! Do not get on the front lines with your base-level vibrations! Only Resurrected Gods will do!

Whoremongers, you are being put on notice. Whether you chant odu, zikr, Rumi, Jung, Baldwin, or Keats! What’s done in the dark will come to the light, at the speed of light. You have not been paying attention to the signs in the past few years. The Mothers have been speaking for some time. Continue to disrespect the portal-ways of the womb man, and you will drown in it, soon enough!

In closing, dear bredren: gone are the days that you can sleep with a woman that you’d rather be-dead-than-seen-with. There used to be a time that you could swim all in, and then bury the evidence. Not so nowadays. She is cataloging every inch of the ‘relationship’ and social media’ing the really juicy parts. You just don’t know it yet. There’s a lojack on your car, as you are reading this. You just don’t know it yet. Be clear! Don’t call her a stripper, (or fat, ugly, black, needy, bitchy, etc…) when the gloves come off; and you are on VIDEO, in the strip-club calling her Your Queen, The Conscious Stripper!

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4 thoughts on “On Umar Johnson and Slut Shaming.

  1. Kudos! Keep your eyes and open sis. With this coming to light, more hidden secrets from other leaders will too.

  2. There is a lot of truth to what you’re saying, but there are a lot of other variables to consider. this sounds more like bashing than valuable information. like men are not supposed to go to strip clubs, lol. I want to get deeper into a comment, but that’s unnecessary. thanks for the read. I still roll with the brother because I have a deeper understanding or what his messages is. You should all consider real culture instead of this western way of thinking. Not just the religious aspect but the everyday life of us. Not fake perception. And you women have choices. Support your black men and understand us. Men should be held Just as high as a women. We’re forced to give you your respect, give us the love we need in what ever form because what he is doing is difficult. If he gets comfort from a women that embodies the energy of sexuality, why you mad? That women clearly wants to embarrass him. Like he shouldn’t watch what’s available. Bring a later does not mean we can’t go to the strip club, awo or not.

  3. Osowo, I agree with you. I do not pass judgement on anyone’s profession; nor what they do in their personal time. She sounds as if she is upset because she wanted more and he didn’t. This happens often, and unfortunately, social media and news outlets have become a platform for the jilted to express their hurt. Dr. Umar still has my support whether he decides to sleep with a dancer or not. That’s his choice and none of my business.

  4. The unfortunate truth about Umar Johnson is that he has done this to many women. He speaks about the queen and how she need to keep her cookies and be righteous but the moment he is in the door of her house that is the first thing he goes for. He straight up asked my friend on their first night “when you go’n gimme them cookies?” My friend was astounded because of what he says in public concerning the black woman and how they should be treated. I don’t agree with men in strip clubs but that is another conversation. Ask your self why is that a form of entertainment to you. Can you enjoy the woman’s body with her clothes on or do we continue to feed this hyper-sexuality imposed by the society we live in. I think Umar is free to do whatever he wants to do. However, I think he needs to turn the volume down and those points and concepts that are real contradictions for him. It wouldn’t matter if he wasn’t so loud. What he struggles with we can let him struggle in silence it is only when he is loud about one thing and yet he does it.

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