We must be very considerate in all that we say, do, and think. What we put out we shall surely see again. Things done in fear, insecurity, and vengeance appear to knock the dominoes down faster than things done in sincere ignorance. Yet, even ignorance is no excuse. Even ignorance causes the dominoes to start falling.
There is a common misunderstanding that negative karma from parents can be passed on to their children, as if karma can be ‘transferred’ via inherited genes. This idea is hard to debunk because it can seem true that parents who do much evil beget, say, offsprings with poor health from birth.
Of all the relationships we experience in a lifetime, the ones we have with our parents, both father and mother, can be the most challenging. Some people have wonderful parental experiences, others defy reason and logic. Our choice of parents, both father and mother, was very specific and we chose the ones who would best prepare us for the karma and healing we needed in a lifetime, beginning with them. Karma doesn’t switch on when we turn 18 and enter adulthood, it begins before conception, with our choice of parents and we always choose the ones who will be the best karmic teachers.
The Buddhist teachings do not advocate the belief that ‘original sin’ from one generation can infect the next, for this would invalidate the otherwise natural and fair workings of karma, whereby one only enjoys and suffers the respective good and ill fruits cultivated personally.
Why is it so that evil parents might suffer via their children’s suffering? Isn’t this unfair to the kids? When children suffer, it is a result of their own karmic fruition, just as sufferin of the parents is a result of their own karma. However, their suffering intersects via interaction as the parents suffer the pains of caring for the children who might also suffer from not being well cared for. As such, it is not so much that the parents suffer through their children or the children through their parents; it is a matter of them suffering together due to the overlapping interplay of collective karma.
Conversely, parents who do good tend to beget good children. Even though the children’s well-being is a result of their own karma, it still does make sense to cultivate more goodness – so as to karmically deserve and thus attract better children!
While ‘birds’ of similar karmic ‘feathers’ flock together as family, individual karma still exists. No one is doomed to suffer with one’s family as karma is dynamic, up to us to ‘tweak’ with new positive karma created, which creates fresh potential to dilute and thus transform past negative karmic potentials. Take charge today!
Goodness is more powerful than evil
because merits can be shared
(while negative karma cannot be shared) – Stonepeace